Dear MOTIVATION: I am really worried about my brother’s escalating drug use. Our family has tried to address it, but he becomes defensive and withdrawn. He often disappears for weeks at a time after each family intervention attempt. I want to help him but fear that expressing my concern may push him further away. How can I communicate my worries without jeopardizing our relationship? I love him and want to support him, but I’m feeling hopeless. Any advice on how to approach this delicate situation would be greatly appreciated. — CONCERNED SIBLING IN OHIO

DEAR CONCERNED SIBLING: It’s commendable that you want to support your brother during this challenging time. Start by choosing a calm moment to express your love and concern. Use “I” statements to convey feelings without sounding accusative. For example, say, “I’m worried about you,” instead of “You need help.” Encourage him gently to seek professional support, and offer to help him find resources. Remember, patience and compassion are key. You can make a significant difference by simply being there for him. For professional addiction help, contact a local addiction help center in your area or call the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) at 1-800-662-HELP (4357). My prayers are with your brother, you, and your family as you work to find and get your brother the help and support he needs.