Dear MOTIVATION: I’m struggling with communication in my relationship. My partner often feels unheard during our conversations, leaving him frustrated and me feeling at a loss. I genuinely want to improve my listening skills to support his feelings. What specific techniques can I implement to show him that I care about what he’s saying and that his thoughts, feelings, and communication matter to me? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated, as I want to strengthen our connection and love. — I’M LISTENING IN CHAPIN, S.C.

DEAR I’M LISTENING: It’s good that you’re seeking to improve your active listening and communication skills. Active listening begins with giving your partner your full attention, maintaining eye contact, and setting aside distractions like your phone. Show empathy by nodding or using phrases like “I understand” to demonstrate you’re engaged. Now and then during the conversation, repeat back what he says to confirm you’re listening, such as, “It sounds like you’re feeling…”. The tone and flow between the two of you are equally important. It’s easier to maintain active listening skills in a calm and easy-going conversation rather than a tense, interrupting one. Remember to ask open-ended questions to encourage him to share more. Active listening not only affirms his feelings but also yours, enhancing your emotional connection. With practice, you’ll cultivate a safe space for open and healthy dialogue. Best of luck in strengthening your bond and love. You can do it!