Dear MOTIVATION: After my divorce, I’ve begun dating again, but my ex-husband insists I keep him informed about any dates or new partners. While I understand we have a history and children together, I am struggling to see this as a reasonable expectation. I feel that it would be healthy for my emotional well-being to establish clear boundaries to maintain privacy in my personal life. Am I being unreasonable in wanting to move on with my life without his oversight? How can I communicate this to him without upsetting him? — REGAINING INDEPENDENCE IN VIRGINIA 

DEAR REGAINING INDEPENDENCE: Your desire to embrace your new life is a positive step forward. It’s perfectly reasonable to establish boundaries post-divorce, especially regarding your personal relationships. Informing your ex-husband about new partners is not necessary unless it affects shared responsibilities or co-parenting. Have an open-minded, honest, and calm discussion with him about your need for privacy and independence. Inform him that you will ensure your children’s safety and expect him to do the same should he start dating again. Setting these boundaries respectfully will help both of you in your healing process. It’s important to prioritize your happiness and well-being as you move forward. Best of luck on your new journey!