Dear MOTIVATION: My wife constantly avoids discussing finances, which leaves me feeling anxious and uncertain about our future. I want to create a safe and open space for us to talk about our money matters without causing her stress. How can I address this sensitive topic without making her uncomfortable? I love her and want to ensure we’re on the same page financially while strengthening our open and honest communication. — SEEKING SOLUTIONS IN NEW HAMPSHIRE

DEAR SEEKING SOLUTIONS: It is understandable to feel overwhelmed by financial pressures, especially in today’s economy. First, consider having a candid conversation with your wife about your current financial matters. Initiate the conversation in a calm, relaxed environment when both of you are at ease, avoiding times of stress or urgency. Begin with light conversations about finances, such as discussing a recent purchase or budgeting for a fun activity, to gradually ease into deeper topics. Emphasize that you’re there to support her and that discussing finances can strengthen your relationship rather than create conflict. Together, you can create a budget that reflects your priorities and aligns with your goals. Seek out local financial workshops for additional support and to gain new skills and understanding. If your situation is beyond the scope of practical financial workshops, consider consulting a financial advisor or counselor together to provide an objective perspective and facilitate the conversation in a safe and guiding manner. Remember, tackling finances as a team can strengthen your bond. Stay positive and look for positive solutions; brighter days are ahead!