Dear MOTIVATION: Valentine’s Day is just around the corner, and my partner often forgets it. I am torn between bringing it up to avoid disappointment or letting it go to keep the peace. I worry that if I mention it, I might upset him AGAIN, which he will then use as an excuse not to express or show any form of special love to me on the day itself. How can I address this without causing tension or his expected explosive response with neglect? I want to feel appreciated and showed love by my man, but I also don’t want to ruin the day before it begins. — WANTING TO FEEL LOVED IN D.C.

DEAR WANTING TO FEEL LOVED: Communication is key in any relationship. It’s understandable to want to feel acknowledged and special, especially on a day like Valentine’s Day. Consider gently bringing it up in a light-hearted way by sharing your excitement for the day. Your sharing of excitement for the day can encourage your partner without placing pressure, blame, or perceived disappointment. It’s also important to express what makes you feel loved, as well as attentively seeking from your partner what makes him feel loved on a special level; this can strengthen your bond and understanding between the two of you.

Share your hopes for Valentine’s Day collaboratively without adding potential agitation or any pressure of expecting that a lot of money must be spent on this one day to achieve the feelings and joy of being truly loved. Allow the special expressions of love to unfold naturally between the two of you. Remember, growing and cultivating love is a two-way street, and clarity can lead to mutual understanding, increased willingness to partake, and genuine, lasting love and happiness on Valentine’s Day and beyond.