Dear MOTIVATION: Every New Year, I set ambitious self-improvement goals for myself, but I often end up feeling disappointed and defeated when I fail to achieve them. I usually give up on them by mid-year. I want to boost my self-esteem, yet it seems like I’m setting myself up for failure time and time again. How can I create more achievable and realistic targets that will help me feel proud of my progress instead of discouraged? — NEW YEAR’S DREAMER IN VERMONT

DEAR NEW YEAR’S DREAMER: It’s inspiring that you’re eager to improve. The challenge is self-talk and your anticipation of disappointment by mid-year. Let’s begin with a mindset shift (tune-up), the intentional process of you breaking away from established, limiting beliefs, self-talk, attitudes, and behaviors, and replacing them with a more empowered, growth-oriented perspective. Start by setting small, specific goals. For instance, instead of aiming to read 20 books this year, consider setting a more achievable goal, such as reading one book every two months. Similarly, rather than trying to learn to speak three new languages or lose 45 pounds, focus on mastering a few words and sentences in just one new language, or aim to gradually change your eating habits to lose 15-25 pounds this year. Celebrate these small victories! Keep a journal to track your accomplishments and reflect on your progress. Also, do some research on the power of self-talk to help reset and refresh your inner voice’s focus and resilience. Remember, self-improvement is a journey, not a race. Consistency over intensity will help nurture your self-esteem. You’ve got this—take one step at a time!