Dear MOTIVATION: My cousin recently came out as LGBTQ+ (lesbian), and I want to show my support and love, but I don’t know how to approach the topic. I worry about saying the wrong thing or making things awkward. I deeply care for her and want her to feel accepted and valued. What’s an empathetic way to start this conversation and let my cousin know I am here to share my unconditional love and support? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. — SUPPORTING FAMILY PRIDE IN KANSAS

DEAR SUPPORTING FAMILY PRIDE: It’s encouraging to see your desire to share your love and support with your cousin! Begin by learning about the LGBTQ+ community, their challenges, and terminology. Next, start a conversation by simply saying, “I admire your courage and want you to know I’m here for you.” Ask open-ended questions, such as, “How are you feeling?” or “What can I do to support you?” Ask your cousin how they prefer to be addressed or identified. Use open-ended questions that encourage your cousin to share the journey without feeling pressured. Listen attentively, without judgment or interruption, during the conversation. Check in regularly to see how your cousin is doing. Your acceptance will mean a great deal to your cousin. Remember, your ongoing love and support are the best gifts you can offer.